Wedding Day Rules That Can Be Broken

21 May

wedding-runNot keen on the established approach to weddings, or finding big day traditions a little restrictive? This week wedding planner Cemone Glinton from Out of Box Events and Weddings in Miami, Florida, guest blogs with her expertise on the guidelines you can put aside on your special day.

Weddings are known for being full of traditions, but it’s okay to throw out the rule book and make your own traditions when it comes to your big day! We all know that rules were made to be broken, so here are a few wedding day traditions where you can add a twist…

There can only be one person to give the bride away 
We once had a bride whose father passed away weeks before her wedding.  With everything in her she pulled herself together and continued with her wedding plans.  There was one problem: she couldn’t decide who was going to walk her down the aisle.  Her initial thought was to have both her brother and uncle walk with her – all three together, hand in hand. This was a perfect idea except the aisle was not wide enough… So we suggested that for the first half of the bride’s walk, her brother would escort her; midway her uncle (her father’s brother) would receive her and walk with her remainder of the aisle.  It worked out perfectly!

All guys on one side and all girls on the other 
four-seasons-wedding-party-groomswomanIt’s your wedding. The best man can be a girl and the maid of honor can be a guy.  We once had a wedding were the groom’s best friend was his sister and the bride’s best friend was her brother. Could you imagine what happened?  During the ceremony the groom’s sister walked in place of the best man to the altar proceeding the groom and pastor. The bride’s brother walked ahead of the bride instead of the maid of honor.  During the maid of honor and best man toasts at the reception, the groom’s sister gave a toast for her brother and the bride’s brother gave his toast for his sister.  Everyone had a great time and welcomed the change.

Groom and bride take pictures during the cocktail hour
Usually we find that the cocktail hour is used for the bride, groom and wedding party to take pictures. Meanwhile their guests are off getting the party started – without the party host and hostess.  We think this rule can be broken. During your pre-wedding meetings with your photographer, explain your plan to join the cocktail hour, so they can coordinate their time with you right after the ceremony has ended, giving you the opportunity to participate in the cocktail hour along with your guests.  A great photographer will capture many pictures during the entire wedding, both candid and posed. Therefore we encourage you to consider joining your cocktail hour and get photos of the way earlier; it’s time and money well spent, and a great opportunity to mingle with your guests. That way, you will have time to eat and enjoy your guests.  Can you still make a grand entrance with your court?  Absolutely! A few minutes prior to your reception excuse yourselves so that you can refresh. There your guests can find their seats and you can make your entrance.  The key to this is coordination and precise timing!

Traditional book signing 
weddingpuzzle4We recently had a client that insisted on having something other than the traditional guest signing book.  There are so many fun and exciting ideas other than the traditional book and pen. If you want something a little more memorable and engaging, consider the following: a canvas guest book (something that you can frame and add to your home), a jigsaw puzzle (guests can sign each piece and create a picture), or thumbprint canvas (with a signature next to each print). These can be turned into a cherished piece of art that can be framed and added to your home as a reminder of your wedding day. Our favorite is the wedding guest book made with pictures from your photo booth; guests can take fun pictures, add them to your photo album and write a short line. The key to this is making sure the photo booth company will print duplicates. Have colorful pens, a glue stick and your photo album ready for guests once they exit the photo booth.

Remember that it’s your day. You can customize your wedding any way you want to make it meaningful and unique. Happy planning!

CemoneAs the founder of Out of Box Events and Weddings, Cemone Glinton has over eight years of experience in the industry of weddings and destination weddings. She has a Bachelor’s degree in Liberal Arts and Hospitality studies from the Florida International University.  She was recently featured in the prestigious MDC alumni network for successful graduates and she is currently the Events and Wedding Planning instructor at the Miami Dade College Homestead campus. Cemone started Out of Box Events and Weddings three years ago. As an Accredited wedding planner from the Wedding Planning Institute, and after executing her first event in 2007, she knew she had found her passion. Cemone feels each wedding is special and she believes that to be successful you must really listen, always treat people with respect, and always stay positive.  Follow on Facebook and Twitter.

(First image from Raffi’s Place, second image from Lorusso Studios, third image from Bridal Tweet, final image provided by author.)

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